I was a big follower of the never loose and wet, what I didnt realize is I can never wash my hair loose and expect it not to hurt. I have to section my hair into four parts. Two in the front and two in the back to wash, style and clean.
I prepoo in those sections , I wash in those sections and finally I style in those sections. I have gotten my hair clean day downpat like noones business. My hair doesnt hurt anymore when I wash and it doesnt tangle as much. I never was a big detangler but its even easier for me now. I can either wear my hair semi shrunken , or keep it as stretched as I want . Its up to me.
I use my Qhemets Detangling Ghee on the iffy spots and detangle with my fingers! Thats it.